Tuesday, March 1, 2011

The adorable reason I haven't posted





Carter James was born at exactly 37 weeks gestation; on February 9th at 11:19 am, weighing 7 lbs even and was 19 inches long.
Here is our birth story. :)

Tuesday, February 8th was a pretty uneventful day. I cleaned the house and laid around most of the day. Robert got home and I noticed I was having a few sporadic contractions, nothing I really thought twice about. So I started cooking dinner, we were having breakfast for dinner, sooo yummy!! We even had chocolate chip and blueberry pancakes.

So we get the kids in bed and I notice I’m still having the contractions, but they’re still pretty far apart. So I start cleaning up after dinner, I even mopped the floors and took care of some laundry.

So after about 3 hours of my contractions being between 1-3 minutes apart, I finally broke down and went to L&D even though they weren’t hurting. I took one last belly picture, woke up my husband and drove myself to the hospital; it’s hard making arrangements for 3 kids for just a false alarm (which is what I thought it was at the time). I got to the hospital at about 4am. They hooked me up to the monitor and no one was acting like it was anything. One nurse even told me to remember my insurance card next time I came up there, insinuating I was there for nothing and would be back. I guess if you don’t walk in screaming in pain they don’t think its labor.

So my wonderful doctor is on call and he tells them to monitor me for an hour and recheck me. I was 2cms and 50% effaced when they stopped my labor at 35 weeks and when I got to L&D this time I was 3cms and 70% effaced. Which was progress from last time I was there, but they needed to see progress WHILE I was there. So after an hour the nurse checks me again and I’m still 3cms and 70%, so I’m starting to think this is “practice labor” where the contractions aren’t progressing me and I get sent home and they fizzle out. So she goes to call my doctor and I’m sitting there almost positive I’m going home. She comes back and my doctor ordered me to be watched another hour since my contractions are still coming regular.

Well within that hour they start getting stronger and I start getting a tad uncomfortable b/c I’m being forced to lay there on my side. She comes back to check me and I’m 5cms, 80% effaced and Carter went from “floating” to engaging and my waters bulging. So at 6:00 a.m. on Feb. 9th, I’m admitted to have Carter, there was no turning back!! I get into my room (which the walking instantly made the contractions not uncomfortable anymore) and get settled in. They start my IV, I decline the epi for the time being, and my hubby gets up there and we just wait.

At this time my contractions start to fizzle out, they’re still there but have moved to 5ish minutes apart and I wasn’t really noticing them as much anymore. So the Dr. decided to break my water and start me on the lowest dose of Pitocin to give me a little jump start. At that time I decide to go ahead with the epidural since I knew I was getting Pitocin. It wasn’t originally what I wanted, but I was totally okay with it. Between 8:30 to 8:50 I get my epidural, get my water broken, and get rechecked and I’m at 7cms, 80% effaced and Carter is at +1 station! I was shocked since I wasn’t in any pain with the contractions! He held off on the Pitocin to see if breaking my water would do it on its own. Well by 10:00 am I hadn’t made any progress so they decided to go ahead and start the Pitocin. It was started on the lowest setting at 10:29 a.m.

The nurse came in to check on me frequently since we knew it wouldn’t take long, she bumped up the Pitocin just a tad after about 30 minutes. After that I felt Carter with each contraction and exactly where he was. It was all pressure in my butt, so the nurse checks me again and I’m at about an 8 and 90% effaced, so she stays there and waits and rechecks again about 5 minutes later and I’m at a 9 and 100% effaced and she can feel his head coming down. (So can I, I might add; the epidural didn’t do its job). So she checks me during my next contraction (OUCH!!) and I’m complete and Carter is coming fast! So she calls for my doctor and I’m scared to death he won’t get there in time. My body automatically starts pushing and I tell the nurse he needs to hurry because Carter is coming, she assures me that she’s delivered babies before, which was actually not that reassuring; I wanted MY doctor! So my body starts automatically pushing for a second time and I feel exactly where Carter’s head is, I know he’s about to be out.

My doctor finally gets in there! To me it felt like an eternity, but there was really only about a 5 minute interval from the time I was complete to when my doctor came in. So now I’m comfortable and ready to push, my doctor goes to check and Carter’s head is right there, he tells me one big push and his head will be out. So I push one time, and out came his head, and then I push a second time, and it was over, he was here!! It happened so fast! I only pushed with my body and the contractions two times and he was out. Carter James came into the world on February 9th at 11:19 am, just shy of 7lbs and 19 inches long! I was exactly 37 weeks but his APGARS were 9 & 9 and there was no doubt how healthy he was with those lungs and how he was screaming.

I got cleaned up, no tears, rips, cuts or anything. I delivered him only 5 hours after being admitted and just 40 minutes before shift change and my doctor would have gone off call. I didn’t get the 100% natural childbirth that I wanted, but I still feel accomplishment in getting to 7cms without feeling pain. I was totally okay with my choice to get the epidural after I knew I would be getting Pitocin and I feel like I had an easy and laidback (and fast) birth experience. Carter is the most amazing little guy and no matter how he came into the world, I’m just so thankful he’s here.

Monday, February 7, 2011

If I Were on Wife Swap

Who would they switch me with? I'm sitting here watching the show now, which I do daily even though I really don't like it. I've noticed that they manage to find the two most extreme families. I honestly think that if I applied for the show, I wouldn't be extreme enough in any of my beliefs to actually get on the show.

Thats the thing about my lifestyle and parenting choices. I've most likely, PROBABLY done it already. I've breastfed and formula fed; I cloth diaper, yet I still use disposables. My kids have a bed time, but its not always the case. We eat dinner together, but not every night. I also cook, but eat out as well. I'm a stay at home mom, but I think that my husband and myself have a great balance on him helping with the kids and chores.

The thing I've learned about parenting and marriages, is you don't really "know" anything until you're in it. Then you learn as you go, and I'd be lying if I said I had it all figured out. I still change parenting techniques to find what works best for us, and I still bicker with my husband about little things, like remembering to take out the trash and put his own socks in the laundry basket.

I'm definitely curious to see what kind of woman that the show would find as my total opposite. I feel that I'm too flexible to be a "type", but I could definitely be wrong. I guess if I had to pick one myself, it would be a working mom with nannies who focuses a lot on her career. I don't feel that thats a bad thing at all, just not the way I chose to raise my children. Which I guess is the point of the show, sometimes you have to take a second, and walk in someone else's shoes. You can never judge another mother until you do. ;)

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Hello Foot, Meet Mouth

Yea, I really helped myself with my last blog post. *insert eye roll* I was bragging about how wonderful everything was going with this pregnancy, and low and behold. BAM!! I stuck my foot in my mouth and ended up in Labor & Delivery. The reason? Surprise, surprise... Carter was trying to make an early appearance! I think I have four of THE most impatient children and no clue where they get it from. ;)

So after 7 hours in the hospital, a shot of terbutiline, some IV fluids, etc..etc... I got to go home extremely exhausted, but thankfully, still pregnant. It also reminded me that I need to get on the ball, seriously. Its not like trying to have my babies early is a surprise for me, so I'm trying to figure out why I've procrastinated on getting prepared for Carter. Luckily, I didn't have THAT much left to do, and I'm almost done (now).

Hopefully I'll be pregnant for another 2 weeks (plus) and next time I make a trip to L&D I'll be far enough along to have him and not have labor stopped. I am very excited to meet our newest addition, however, I think I can't wait just a bit longer until he is fully "baked". :)

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Update On Me!

Wife, mother of 3, pregnant with number 4, freak ice storm, etc etc, I can come up with all sorts of excuses to explain why I haven't blogged in a while. The truth is, I've honestly just let it slip my mind! Don't worry though! I've come up with quite a few topics and can't wait to get blogging about them!! Oh how I've missed this!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also, an update on whats going on with us! :) Rileigh is doing great in school, she'll be the big F-I-V-E in March!! Gavin just turned 3 on the 23rd, he can identify all his letters and count to 15! Logan is a walking, jabbering, but completely adorable monster. His vocabulary is excellent, even his meow has a profound pronunciation. (LOL)

I will be 35 weeks pregnant tomorrow and I'm honestly expecting a baby within the next 3 weeks with my history, however, you never know!! He could extend his arms and refuse to come out until 42 weeks! So far the pregnancy has been great, no pre-term labor, no magnesium sulfate and steroid shots, no repeat gestational diabetes. If it wasn't for the constant head butts to the cervix and toes in the ribs I would probably question my pregnant status. I am definitely enjoying my last pregnancy though, it really has flown by so fast. Its definitely bittersweet, but we're a complete family and I think four is just our number. :)

Now that you're all updated, be on the look out for a few things that have been on my mind lately! :) :)

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Day 15 of 30

Day 15- Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play

No judging, I have a very broad taste in music. :)

1. Demi Lovato- Trash
2. Eric Clapton - Wonderful Tonight
3. Toby Keith - Trailerhood
4. Taking Back Sunday - You're So Last Summer
5. Secondhand Serenade - Fall For You
6. Nelly - Just a Dream
7. Carrie Underwood - Temporary Home
8. Reba McEntire - Does He Love You?
9. My Chemical Romance - I'm Not Okay
10. Finch - Ender
11. TI - Whatever You Like
12. Black Eyed Peas - Boom Boom Pow
13. Miley Cyrus - Party in the USA
14. Eminem & Rhianna - Love the Way You Lie
15. Tim McGraw & Nelly - Over & Over

Ok.. WOW... that is quite the umm... variety. hahaha

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Day 14 of 30

Sorry I've been so MIA dear blog! Life is hectic as a pregnant mommy of 3. :) I'm just going to pick up where I left off and make sure I finish the rest of it!!

Day 14- A picture of you and your family

This is pretty sad... I don't have a recent one. :( I'm usually the one behind the camera and we haven't been anywhere in a while to take one of us all together. I think that just because of this, I'm going to find a way in the next couple of days to get one!! I'll be back to post it in a new post when I get one.

I know I can't be the only mommy so busy taking pictures of her children that she forgets to take one of herself WITH the children, oh yea, and that hubby guy. hahaha

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Day 13 of 30

Day 13- A letter to someone who has hurt you recently

I honestly can't even get into this, because this person hurt a "friend" in a way NO WOMAN should EVER do. It would honestly go something like this...

Dear backstabber,

KARMA.

Have a nice life,
Heather

I know its wrong to hang on to such negative feels towards a person, and I'm really not. I don't dwell on what she did to hurt me and I rarely think of her and like to think she never existed. My "letter" says it all. I can let go and move on, because thats what karma is for. It means I don't have to lift a finger, it'll take care of it for me.

Monday, August 23, 2010

Day 12 of 30

Day 12- How you found out about blogs and why you made one

I use to blog on Myspace a bit, and then I found out there were whole sites for it. When I joined Justmommies.com, I loved looking through and reading the blogs I found in the signatures. Eventually I made my own and I'm working on getting in the habit of posting more. I have a hard time of thinking of topics, I'd like to post stuff that people actually want to read. :)

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Day 11 of 30

Day 11- Another picture of you and your friends

Just 2, and they're old. I miss these ladies, life is so busy it's easy to lose touch. :(



Saturday, August 21, 2010

Day 10 of 30

Day 10- Songs you listen to when you are Happy, Sad, Bored, Hyped, Mad

Its really hard to narrow down just ONE song I listen to for each mood. It all depends on why I'm sad or mad. I listen to a lot of country when I'm sad, the "my dog died, my truck don't run, and it won't stop raining" kind of songs.

Happy, I love to listen to the new stuff. Its not called "pop" anymore, but the bouncy, dancing and singing in the car while people are looking at you like you're an idiot, kind of stuff.

Bored, I just put it on Pandora.com and type in a random name of a band and let it play through.

Hyped, totally rap. When I get the rare night out, I crank it ALLLLLL the way up and of course, dance in the car.

When I'm mad, its probably more country or some hard rock. Just depends on why I'm mad.

Friday, August 20, 2010

Day 09 of 30

Day 09- Something you’re proud of in the past few days

I haven't really done anything interesting in the past fews days. I am super proud of these adorable pictures I got today!!!



12 weeks and 2 days. Not the best quality b/c I snapped them with my phone. I hope to get some more later. Heartbeat was 152 beats per minute. He/she looks so much like a baby now! I never get tired of ultrasounds. :D

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Day 08 of 30

Day 08- Short term goals for this month and why.

To eat better. I haven't really been eating a lot and when I do its rarely something "good for me". I know I'm pregnant, but this is the first trimester and I'm trying to give the baby what it wants because if I don't I'll be hugging the toilet.

To clean the toilets. I do this at least once a week, I think I need to do it more.

Organize Rileigh's room. Its clean, until you open the closet, I really need to get on the ball with that.

Start working on potty training Gavin. He's showing interest, I'm just not really pushing the issue. I think if I put him in his Cars big boy undies and actually started making a fun deal out of it, he'd be potty trained. I rushed Rileigh and she regressed after she was trained, I just don't want that to happen to him.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Day 07 of 30

Day 07- A picture of someone/something that has the biggest impact on you.

This is an easy one. :) I don't have 1 picture though, I have a 4.


I don't really think I have to explain this too much. My husband, Robert, changed my life by marrying me and giving me our 4 children. Each of my children have added something new and special into my life, and I couldn't image life without them.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Day 06 of 30

Day 06- Favorite super hero and why

I'm gonna go sorta new-age with this. She's not a classic super hero, but she's my favorite. Why? For the simple reason that she has three kids, and they all have super powers as well. She can handle super speed, invisibility, force field shield, and a crazy fire baby that turns into a demon. Can we say, Mom of the Year Award? Its hard enough taking care of 3 kids without superpowers, and all she can do is stretch. I must say that something that would definitely come in handy; however, I think I'll stick with the non-stretchy power and the kids without the superpowers.

My favorite super hero is Elastigirl, the best Super Mom out there!!


Monday, August 16, 2010

Day 05 of 30

Day 05- A picture of somewhere you’ve been to.

I haven't been to a whole lot of places, and this is probably sorta lame to choose, but I'm choosing the Georgia Aquarium. It was so beautiful and I really loved going!! I can't wait to take the kids back now that Rileigh and Gavin are older, I'm sure they would have a blast!!! I've also posted a picture of the tunnel, it was my favorite part!





Sunday, August 15, 2010

Day 04 of 30

Day 04- A habit that you wish you didn’t have

I bite my nails. I do it when I'm bored, nervous, stressed, mad, and just about every other annoying emotion. I've done it for as long as I can remember and I've actually gotten myself to stop at times. I love letting my nails get long and pretty, but I always end up biting them again! I'm not a huge fan of fake nails either. I would really love to find something that would help me stop biting them for good. They grow so fast when I'm pregnant that now would be a great time, its just hard because most of the time, I don't even realize I'm doing it.

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Day 03 of 30

Day 03- A picture of you and your friends

This one doesn't really need much explaining, but I'm gonna add a caption anyways. I don't hang out with my friends as much as I'd like, Jenn lives far away and the kids keep me pretty busy. So, when we get the rare night out, someone always makes sure to snap a picture!

Leslie, Linda, Me, Brittney

This is an old one and Jenn doesn't like it a whole lot. However, its the only one I really have of us. Next time she's in town we MUST get another one! Jenn is on the left, I'm on the right. :)

Friday, August 13, 2010

Day 02 of 30

Day 02- The meaning behind your blog name.

Let's see, I sorta have two. The one in my url is Heatherw9705. That one is pretty simple! My name, the initial to my last name, and the day I married my husband. :) The title of my blog, is Butterfly Kisses. Thats from the Bob Carlisle song that I adore! My kids are getting so big, so fast; and its just a reminder to enjoy the little things before they're all grown up and I lose these days forever. I also have a quote at the bottom of the title, "There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one". This is to remind me that every mother does make mistakes. So if I leave a diaper on longer than I wanted, or forget to wash the pair of pants Rileigh begged me for, I don't feel "as" bad. There is no such thing as the perfect mother, because there is no such thing as perfect. I do what I can, the best that I can, and I have happy, healthy, secure and beautiful children, and thats all I can ask for.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Day 01 of 30

A recent picture and 15 Interesting Facts























This is from our Florida trip a few months ago,
I'm make-up less and fresh out of the shower!

15 Interesting Facts About Myself
1. I have a secret obsession with connecting actors with movies and directors.
2. I love to read so much that if I don't have a new book, I re-read an old one.
3. I can't stand Teen Mom or 16 and Pregnant.
4. I learned how to do selective coloring using Paint 4 years ago. (its HARD, but much easier on Photoshop.)
5. I talk too much and too fast when I'm nervous and/or excited.
6. I'm the oldest and the only girl.
7. My youngest brother, is only 5 months older than Rileigh. They just started Pre-K.
8. Out of our 4 kids, only one was planned.
9. I graduated high school with an A average and I have a 4.0 in College.
10. I intend to go back to College, I just have to find the time.
11. I wanted to be a Kindergarten teacher, until I worked at a Day Care.
12. I married my husband when I was only 18.
13. I was co-captain of the Varsity Cheerleading Squad my Junior year.
14. My youngest son was born on Labor Day, and my wedding anniversary.
15. I am deathly afraid of spiders, my 4 year old kills them for me.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

30 Days of Straight Posting!

Yes!! I have let my blog just sit here, and I've decided to do something about it! I stole this from one of my best friend's blogs. Hey! She got the idea from other blogs too so don't look at me like that!!! ;) Its called 30 days of Me! I know, I know, I'm not that interesting, or so... you THINK I'm not. Why don't you follow me for the next 30 days and find out!!

Here are the things I will be posting about! I'm undecided if I'll start today or tomorrow, but you'll know as soon as I do!

Day 01- A recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself
Day 02- The meaning behind your blog name
Day 03- A picture of you and your friends
Day 04- A habit that you wish you didn’t have
Day 05- A picture of somewhere you’ve been to
Day 06- Favorite super hero and why
Day 07- A picture of someone/something that has the biggest impact on you
Day 08- Short term goals for this month and why
Day 09- Something you’re proud of in the past few days
Day 10- Songs you listen to when you are Happy, Sad, Bored, Hyped, Mad
Day 11- Another picture of you and your friends
Day 12- How you found out about blogs and why you made one
Day 13- A letter to someone who has hurt you recently
Day 14- A picture of you and your family
Day 15- Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play
Day 16- Another picture of yourself
Day 17- Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why
Day 18- Plans/dreams/goals you have
Day 19- Nicknames you have; why do you have them
Day 20- Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future
Day 21- A picture of something that makes you happy
Day 22- What makes you different from everyone else
Day 23- Something you crave for a lot
Day 24- A letter to your parents
Day 25- What I would find in your bag
Day 26- What you think about your friends
Day 27- Why are you doing this 30 day challenge
Day 28- A picture of you last year and now, how have you changed since then?
Day 29- In this past month, what have you learned
Day 30- Who are you?